Finding Yourself Stuck in Corporate Settings, and Don’t Know What to Do or Say?
I’m no expert, but here’s what I’ve learned after 8 years in a corporate setting.
Be Genuine & Honest
I can smell fake people from a mile away, and chances are that other people can too! Anyone who isn’t genuine will lose my interest quick, so be yourself. Think about what you’re going to say, but don’t overcomplicate it. Second, think about your strengths and play on them. Don’t say you like football if you only watch for Taylor Swift. We all know she’s fabulous, but you want people to be intrigued by you for who you are, not what claim to like or have. Pro Tip: Being genuine & honest doesn’t mean spilling all of the tea; No one likes a one-upper or someone that overshares. Save that for your neighbors and your girlfriends!
Leave Your iPhones in Your bag!
Yes, we all have smart watches, but if you’re making connections, put your devices away & keep them on silent. It’s 2024, and there are do not disturb features and favorites, which can allow for emergencies if needed. If someone is on their phone a lot, they lose points in my book. Not only is it rude, it shows their lack of interest, regardless of intent. This goes for important meetings and interviews too! I once had a director give me 8 minutes of her time during an interview, and then took a call she deemed more important. I can tell you that I never looked at her the same way after that. Your notifications will still be the same in an hour, trust me.
Keep It Simple
Think of a few strengths & be able to communicate them confidently. When someone asks you about yourself, be sure to throw in something unique. I like to add in some flavor, which leaves people with a great first impression. Bonus points if it’s embarrassing [within reason, don’t be weird].
Actively Listen & Engage
Bring positivity and good energy into your conversations. Approach them with genuine interest in their work, life or experiences. Yes, that means even if they talk about something you can’t relate to, you engage. Make sure you’re asking questions as you finish up answering theirs! Chances are if you think you’re talking too much, you probably are. Especially if there is alcohol involved. Keep that to a 2 drink maximum. Pro tip: If you aren’t able to remember everything – jot their name down and a note about them after you speak. I also do this with coworkers – so I can remember details that help with small talk! Lastly, don’t forget about body language! Keep note of your posture and demeanor.
Follow up
In business, it’s always good practice to follow up. That could be in the form of a thank-you email or note, or just sending a comment when you connect. Pro tips: be sure to address them by name, and don’t wait too long to connect. Little details matter!
